I started the year telling myself that one of my new year resolutions was to find a saying that lifted the spirits, print it out and read it every morning before I got out of bed. Sounds good, doesn’t it?
Well! I did try. I decided that what I needed to tell myself every morning was:
‘Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Make it a good one.”
And I did keep to it for months. And then I fell by the wayside. Big mistake.
It was good to have my first thoughts of the day life-affirming and uplifting. Starting your day on a positive note is good for the soul. I would recommend it. Just repeating that positive affirmation makes you stand up straighter, lifts your heart and clears your head. But then you face into your day and the rollercoaster that is life. It is easy to maintain your positivity when your day is good. When you don’t get held up in traffic; when the best parking spot is there waiting for you; when your offspring ring with good news or just for a chat or when your loved one brings you flowers for no reason other than to show you they love you. Those are the good days.
But then you get the days when nothing goes right. When you get caught in a traffic jam and your ten-minute journey turns into thirty. When the tickets you wanted were sold out two minutes before you got to the top of the queue; when it lashed rain as you ran for the school gates without your coat and stopped the second you sat back into the driver’s seat, squelching and cold; when you got sidetracked trying to write something and forgot about the stew until the burnt smell permeated the house. You get the idea. A series of little irritations. Not bad news. Not life-threatening. Just irritating. It’s those days that threaten your positivity.
I hold my hands up here and admit defeat. I fall under pressure. On those bad days, my positivity takes a battering and I can hear that saying ringing in my ears ‘if it wasn’t for bad luck I would have no luck at all.”
It can be so easy to roll over and allow those distractions to dictate your mood. To bring you into a downward spiral that can be so difficult to shake off. If you look around you to those who are always upbeat, they are the people who roll with the punches, so to speak; who take whatever life throws at them and deal with it. They are in control of their own destiny.
I suppose what I am trying to say is, that life happens, it happens to you and your loves ones, but it’s not what life throws at you and yours that should dictate, it is how you deal with what life throws at you that dictates your frame of mind, and you can control that. You have complete control over that.
Like I said, my life would be so much easier if I took my own advice!